Sunday, July 23, 2023

My soul is weary: Another Angel

On Thursday my Aunt (Mummy's cousin), a good friend of mine and the most wonderful person passed on after suffering a massive pulmonary embolism. She was just 45. A wife and mother. Her youngest is only 8 years old.

while I want to detail the story, my mind wants me to write what I am feeling emotional.

I have not had the time to curl up into a ball and mourn even though my entire body wants to do just that. But I am a Mom of young children on holiday, and I have a full-time job with tight deadlines looming. I have asked for time off to mourn her but because the funeral is on the weekend I need to be here working so I can take time off when I really need to be at the funeral.

I have not cried except in bursts and even then may be a few seconds each time because I am being told to hold it together for our kids, because I am having to console one of her children who is in pieces, to tell people telling them not to cry to leave them to mourn as they choose, to rescue a child broken by shock, on Thursday night raw from grief to host the entire set of relatives unplanned, to coordinate her death certification and embalming, buy a coffin, resolve conflicts starting to brew. I am weary, that is the right word. 

Also I feel guilty, if I have been in Kampala the time she was referred for the first time would a visit to her helped me with the diagnosis? May be the outcome would have been better? Everything now points to micro-embolisms that we ongoing.

Aunt Atto Filder Omony. I weko wa con tutwal. 



Saturday, June 17, 2023

Daddy. I wrote this over 10 years ago. We have a father who taught us that love = Showing up

Daddy Happy Fathers' Day




Labeling our uniforms, books, containers, and bags at the start of the school year.

Present at every school event.

Changing his career path three times because he wanted more time with his family.

Teaching us how to change car wheels, check oil and coolant, and align the wiper water sprays from when we were as little as 7 years old.

Going through our all homework and exercise books weekly to guide us. When I brought him my medical school notes to review he said, "Your work is very neat but I can no longer help you with the concepts."

Making a big deal of all our first days. Came to all first days of term from kindergarten, took us to our high school boarding school dormitories, our University rooms, our first homes after school, and to the airport when we had to travel abroad.

Left high-level meetings to pick us up from school and would return to them later while we hung around his office getting to know his colleagues and drinking cold sodas.

Every end of term took us for the special end-of-term family ice cream treat. Even on those occasions when our term reports weren't pleasing.

Read to us all the time. By the time we were 9 we had listened to him read Things fall apart, the river between, song of Lawino, weep not child, Tom Sawyer.

Watched the TV series The African with us explaining this and that.

Told us the good about our country and took us to see the country. We went after Sunday Mass with tea in flasks and egg and corned beef sandwiches.

Told us Acholi folk tales and made us so proud of who we are: Africans, Ugandans, Luo, Acholi.

Taught us how to unplug drains. Don't worry about getting your hands dirty; hands can always be washed.

Taught us how to assemble electrical plugs, fix bulbs, replace fuses, and break the circuit in the main switch.

Watched the constellations with us.

He never complained about his tough childhood. Orphaned early and brought up by a single mother who made local brew (right under the noses of the colonialists who had made it illegal) to take them through school. He told us only the humor he saw in their poverty-stricken lives. 

When we became adults he said "Spend your money to make your life and your family comfortable. That is the reason we work."

Being an accountant he taught us to value money. He said, "Don't spend what you don't have. Don't imagine what you would do with money that isn't yours. Work for whatever you want. Decide what is enough early on or you will never know when you have enough."

He only brought home work on one or two nights a year and it was always at the end of their financial year.

When we finally got a VCR he would take us to the video lib and as a rule, the family would borrow three movies: two for the kids, one for grown-ups. The latter he would watch with his leading lady.

Amazing with his grandchildren.

Amazing husband to an amazing wife. 

Staunch Catholic convert. He always read the Bible to us and taught us (still teaches us) Bible history and Catholic Catechism.

He gives, gives, and gives especially when it has to do with education and career development.

Whenever we meet his past colleagues and people working with him today they tell us what we already know. "Your Dad is an amazing person. Your Dad is the reason I am who I am today."

His one weakness (and we used to use it to get a laugh) is When he hears the words "Where are the keys?" He totally freaks out.

He has taught us how to live: Laugh, love, give, and find humor in the oddest even most painful places.

Dad turned 73 this year. He is an amazing father. Thank you, Lord for gifting us with him.

Thursday, October 28, 2021

Another Angel; too many angels

 Another Angel 

Today we received the news that another friend Dr. Carol Onyango Makumbi passed on yesterday Oct 27, 2021.  Another goodbye to a friend this year. I met her when she was an intern and us in our third year.  She took us under her wings and was so kind and trained us.  We became friends. I encouraged her to take her son to TNGS, he is Jeffie's classmate.  She is Cathy Odoi's cousin.  Lord, please be with her little boy Tendo and her husband James.

In this blog, I will list friends and people I know who have passed on since Dec 2020.

Mrs. Barugahare (Florence Kobusingye's Mum)

John Dee

Mrs Justine Kasule (Mummy Joe Ssengooba)

Peter Karozi

Jane Frances Wanyama

Lilliane Kiwanuka

Frank Ruganzo

Janat's brother and father

Johnnie Lusiba's Mum

These are some of the many.

God, please give them eternal rest.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Orange solution to tantrums

Today started off like any normal day: Me, as usual, terrified of 17-month-old little J's tantrum as I tried to get him into his car seat as happens every morning as we get ready to go to daycare. However this morning he woke up just as I was about to pack his orange which he immediately called mango. He hurried for it, held it to himself as I got him dressed, and then all the way to school. No tantrums at all, not even when I handed him over. Maybe I have found a solution to the tantrums. I will try it again tomorrow and will let you know the outcome.

Friday, January 9, 2009

The start

What am i doing now? I am thinking about me, I do that alot. This is the start of my e-journal